“I will not attach my sense of well-being to a stream of thought that pulls up old wounds to define my present moment.”

Leslie Jo Thornton Cheshire

How do we speak to ourselves? What words do we use to define our reality?  How do we speak to others and what does this tell an aware being about us? Examining and understanding the language we use to navigate this reality is a tool to self-awareness.  Self-reflection shows us what we believe and how we use what we believe. It uncovers our ingrained ideas and the limited concepts we have embraced within this matrix. Our choice of words can teach us about the paradigms we use and the unconscious ways we move through this reality.

Words and language are vibration.  The myriad of vibrations present here give a wide palette for expression. We are all composed of energy and vibration.  It is all that there is. Understand this, and that our choice of words defines our reality. This is a big step in changing ones perceptive abilities.  One example is when someone says, “I love unconditionally.” Or they say, “I love everyone whether they deserve it or not.” With the first I hear, ‘I am practicing loving unconditionally.”  With the second I hear, “I like the concept but I only love you unconditionally if you deserve it!”  The second tells me the individual is still in the understanding phase of grasping the concept. It is a very different message.  To love unconditionally is exactly that, love with no conditions whatsoever. Therefore, any 3D concept of deserving is a very small perspective.

Donald Neale Walsch speaks to words and vibrations in the “Conversations with God” series.  When we communicate with Source or God or any other concept of Spirit language is very important.  Many of the beings working with you have not actually lived in human form. It is an education both up and down in communication.  When I say to the universe, “I am…,” as opposed to “I want…,” I am sending two very different messages. With the “I am” statement I am owning aspects and desires within myself and working towards those goals.  “I am this.” ” I am becoming this.” When I say to the universe, “I want.” I am asking for the experience of wanting not of being. I am asking for the limbo state of being inherent in wanting. This is not a vibration I wish to manifest in my reality.

Now let’s look at the word “Try.”  “I am trying to do it!” Look up the word in the dictionary.  Trying has nothing to do with succeeding. With trying, the vibrational implication is that “failing” (a 3D concept) is an option.  When this reality is viewed from a broader perspective, there is no failure. We are not 3D meat suits driven by base ideas and fears.  We are all here by Spirit’s will. And the small judgments and paradigms playing out here are just that. There is no failure, just corrections in the making.  If I hit a tennis ball two inches outside the line have I failed? No. I have only “failed” if I do not learn and grow from the experience. If I continue to hit the ball two inches out I have not been productive in correcting my course.  See? To “Try” is to embrace a concept of failure which is not real. It is a paradigm seeded into our consciousness.

Instead of using “Try to,” and the vibrational baggage in the global consciousness around it, I say “I will do my best.”  I no longer try. I do my best. My best varies from day-to-day. But I give my best in all situations. If I don’t feel that I can do or be my best, I do not engage. Here is a useful experiment; The next time you are asked to do something and you are unsure if you can accomplish the task, instead of saying “I’ll try,” say “I’ll do my best.”  You can feel the difference in your body when using the latter. When one can choose not to be defined by 3D concepts of success and failure, all this baggage around these paradigms becomes silly.

We are learning what we really are,  and that our language is an ever- mutable construct.  The process can be painful. Pain is unavoidable in human form.  Suffering is not a basic construct of Spirit.  Suffering is a continuation of a trauma carried forward into a souls reality.  Pain is an immediate response to a stimulus. It can be physical and or psychological in nature.  It is a transitory state in which one’s defenses kick in to protect the physical or mental well-being of an individual.  Suffering, on the other hand, is the state or condition persisting long after the threat is gone. This is a wound. We can heal wounds.  Suffering and carrying baggage and burdens into our futures is not the natural flow.

Think of the mind and body as a wave and a particle.  We are all frozen light. Light contains two distinct properties.  That of a wave. This is the mental aspect, with our thoughts and concepts and the paradigms we have embraced.  The body is the particle. The body is the physical manifestation of the mind. Mind being ethereal and the wave creating the particles physical manifestation of a body here.  We are the product of all our thoughts. These thoughts are creating our individual and global experiences here. The mind drives the manifestation. The mind controls the projection of the physical.

The mind is the mental/spiritual, and the body is the physical particle manifestation. The body is the result.  And all of this is based on our understanding and use of language and what it expresses vibrationally coupled with how we each choose to communicate with ourselves and our world.  The mind is the new frontier. It is the conduit to the higher energies, experiences and understandings. When the mind is taught to use language (vibration) thoughtfully suffering fades.

The word “Should” is an example of how unconscious some patterns are.  What does the word “Should’ mean to you? How should the world be? What are your thoughts when presented with a should?  What shouldn’t be happening? The word should is used as an obligation, a duty, a requirement. It is a 3D construct to control the masses.  Our highest duty is to be the best version of ourselves. We have a duty to bring this physical being into a new awareness not to jump through societal hoops of “correctness.”

Should is by the nature in its vibration, a judgement.  One group decides another should not eat meat.  Or one should live without comfort to reach enlightenment.  These are our individual ideas, our perceptions of reality.  “Shoulds” are our belief systems.  We are projecting onto others. It has not been proven that meat is bad.  And I know many deeply spiritual beings with resources.  this language reflects an inability for one Soul to see past their own reality to see another’s perspective or path.  This thinking leaves no room for a God or Source.  It implies that some of us are not of Source or God. And that our free will in expression is somehow inferior to their current beliefs.  When all is God, regardless or not, if we as individuals do not like what is being reflected back to us and insist things “should be” different. This is judgement!

Often it is a judgement about something that has already happened.  It is already in the past. Does one cry over spilled milk? One can if they choose to suffer.  Or one can see the spilled milk and take action to correct the misstep. There is an acceptance that the milk has spilled.  No suffering and lamenting or accusations are going to shift the reality. And all the “should haves” in the world don’t change what happened.  How many times do you choose to revisit the experience of the “spilled milk?” These thoughts only serve to continue your struggle.

Should is obsolete.  Should is a 3D concept of projecting one’s personal reality unto another and judging the validity of their actions.  If you are saying to another, “You should…,” then it is likely you speak to yourself in the same judgmental ways. And are constantly, unconsciously judging yourself in these same ways.  Watch your language and thoughts. Keep the compass internal. Spend one day committed to never once using the word “Should.” Watch how difficult it becomes to express yourself. If you are stumbling for words, you are judging yourself and others.  If you struggle to find a way to express your thoughts without the word “Should,” You are projecting your reality into another’s without any real understanding of their experience. As C G Jung, so eloquently put it, “Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.”

Emotions, pain and suffering are interconnected.  Emotions can spark pain, and pain can spark emotion.  We are not our emotions. These come and go routinely. Emotions are not who we are.  They are a modality for expression in a 3D matrix. Emotion on the other levels and in other realms is very different.  When the body is expanded energetically and cleared of old debris emotion moves through and is released for the healing of the wound.  We remove our blocks to flow and we heal naturally. We make the mistake of defining ourselves by our emotions. We forget the immutable core of our essence and descend into the illusion.  Next time you find yourself in emotional pain, stop and ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” Did the thought or the feeling come first? This is a good exercise in how aware of your body and thoughts you are.

The mind and body are so interconnected that emotions arise in two distinct ways.  At times a disturbing thought or memory will trigger a physical response. In these instances we have a cognitive source for our perceived pain. Or, in many instances, an uncomfortable feeling will arise and there is no drama or thought attached. In either instance we engage a stream of thought to a conclusion.  Depending on how we choose to engage, we can either explore and navigate the thoughts and feelings consciously, ignore the thoughts by distracting ourselves, or totally reject the thoughts. When emotional pain arises absent of an apparent thought catalyst there are additional ways to pursue the wound and heal it.

Consciously creating space for ourselves, and looking and exploring these thoughts is the quickest avenue to resolution and release.  This is simple, but not as easy as it sounds. This involves journeying into our pain and finding the core wounds. It is deeply reflective work.  Why is a button pushed? It is Spirit’s way of awakening us. This approach helps each of us to remember who we really are and to see that the obstacles in our path to growth are products of years of our thoughts on limitations and our conditioning.  When we can drop the conditioning and the dysfunctional paradigms streaming in this matrix, we begin to shift ourselves to peace and the collective as well. The only way we change the collective consciousness is to change ourselves. This type of growth and insight will change our self view and the world view.  Instead of a victim mentality of, “Why is this happening to me?” our focus becomes, “What is this showing me about my perceived limitations and wounds?” Suffering is about remaining in our wounds. Pain comes and goes. A mental pattern must be present that supports the concept for prolonged suffering.

To ignore, is to suppress or repress.  In essence adding additional injury to the old  wounds and seating them more deeply into the physical form.  All of this is recorded in our genetic structure and permeates the global view as well.  This leads to further lessons and situations that push the same buttons. Then, as the button is more deeply seated with past practices, the button becomes larger, more painful and harder to move.  Envision a physical wound unhealed for decades. This wound gets poked and irritated frequently. It begins to fester and encapsulate. Layer after layer of unresolved pain and hurt are added as emotions and buttons are ignored and repressed.  This is a deep and unaddressed wound. When left unhealed, these wounds spill over into every aspect of our expression here. Wounds, unattended to, fester and grow. The expression goes, “Do not bleed on those that did not cut you.” The mistake we make here is in thinking we are avoiding pain by ignoring it.  We are just turning pain into prolonged suffering. This unhealed pain is then carried forward to harm others through dysfunctional practices and harming behaviors present in the unbalanced Soul’s patterns of pain and abuse carried forward by those in pain.

To deny our pain causes the greatest suffering of all. Would you deny your child’s pain? Would you deny that of your dearest friend or the beloved pet, or your spouse?  What message would that send on the deepest levels to those involved? It vibrationally says you don’t matter. When we do it to ourselves, we are saying “I don’t matter!” I have an agenda, pain or not and this is inconvenient.”  Yet, you or a loved one have had a large and emotional response. When we deny a lesson or a response in our body, we are disclaiming them, nullifying them to the human and the Spirit in us. This is when the greatest pain is felt and the deepest wounds produced and left to fester from neglect. In these states, we are outside the flow and unaware.  Denial is the one thing that makes it impossible to heal. If one cannot accept that there is work to be done then it doesn’t get done. Donald Neale Walsch says, paraphrasing here, “The amount of suffering we experience is directly proportional to the difference between what is really happening and our desired outcomes…the greater the gap…the more pain experienced.”  Our language when used unconsciously with ourselves and others feeds this gap.

The other primary way of experiencing pain or discomfort is when emotion comes from nowhere.  We cannot find the trigger in our thoughts or the situation. Unfortunately we have been conditioned to believe that all things must be defined.  The paradigm of understanding. The first three approaches discussed are possible here to but the triggered individual adds a dimension to the process and begins to pull up past wounds that fit the feeling.  From my experience I have learned to stop this process. I do not attach to a stream of thought that pulls up old wounds to define my present moment.

This is an amazing tool.  I have an agreement with my highest.  I am clearing all old emotion and debris. Often a feeling will arise as residual energies around a specific wound are still clearing. The lesson has been received and these are the vestiges of that healing.  Instead of the paradigm of suffering, pulling up old patterns and reliving old wounds and writing a story to define my experience, I have an agreement with myself, Leslie, and the energies of my highest. If I don’t need a story, I don’t want a story!  No more “pasting,” the bringing up the old and tainting the new moment.  Very rarely, when this happens, I get the story. But when I do, it is an expanded insight into my process and necessary for where I am or I am going.  This type of arrangement with my highest is helpful in two ways. First, I do not waste time suffering and reliving trauma or revisiting old business. Second, when I need the scoop to better manifest and grow, I remain open and receptive and receive the guidance needed.

We say things like “I am sad.”  “I am angry.” But, truthfully these are not what we are, EVER.  “I am…”  is an affirmation of being.  It is a vibration of growth. We are beings of immense potential.  At times, we feel this or that.  Instead of “I am hurt,” which says to the universe “I am this…hurting,” which the universe then reflects back what you what you choose to focus on.   “I am’s” are affirmations of your state of being, not a transitory feeling. Instead of saying, “I am hurting,” state emotions as transitory, “I feel pain”, “I feel hurt in this moment.” I feel sad in this moment.” This emotion is not what we are, it is simply a feeling brought about by old wounds I have yet to find and heal.

There is so much in language.  Watch your words. Not just the words you project into this matrix but the internal dialogue and vocabulary we use to navigate our moment.   If you find you have responded unmindfully in a situation do you say to yourself, “I am stupid.” Or do you say, “That was not my wisest choice in the moment.” Or, “That didn’t go as envisioned. What can I learn from this to better serve me and the circumstances in the future?”  This builds on the difference between reacting and acting or responding with mindfulness.

The first statement, “I am stupid,” is a judgement.  It is a reaction. The way one has learned to communicate with themself in the cognitive years.  These patterns if untouched, are formed around ten years old. These patterns are old, outdated, immature and ineffective in the new paradigm developing.  The old patterns of communication are riddled with judgement, competition, division and divisiveness. They imply failure and the psyche and Spirit develop an unproductive limited pattern to navigate their experience.  If it is said long enough, regardless of how unconsciously it is expressed, it becomes part of the psyche and the individual’s unconscious world view. We allow poor self-awareness and communications skills to define ourselves.

The second statement,”That was not my wisest choice in the moment” is a better and more effective approach. This works when one is still in the process of learning self-awareness.  It is an acknowledgement of internal process and a reconnecting with aspects of Self.  It is the doorway to 4D.  It is an acceptance that growth is warranted. It also acknowledges the creation of a new awareness of self, to self and in relationship to the whole.  It opens the door to knowing oneself in all aspects. Both the light and the shadow. It is a request to Source to know oneself and to find clarity in our individual experiences here.

Let’s talk about the third statement. “What can I learn from this to better serve myself and the circumstances for the collective in the future?” It is a response that reflects one’s awareness within a system.  This type of thinking transcends the 3D and some portions of the 4D reality and encompasses the knowing of oneness.  It shows that an individual’s view is part of the world and collective expression here.  And every individual expression is part of a much larger whole. There is balance between one’s personal view and the understanding that there is really no individual view at all.  It aligns one with a higher vision of healing oneself and the dynamics we encounter. We heal the collective as well as ourselves in this type of process.

In summary, Spend one day never saying, should, try or want.  Replace should with a desire to understand why you think another “Should” see it your way.  “Shoulds” vibrationally are riddled with fear.  And replace try with “I’ll do my best.”  Keep in mind that our best varies greatly day-to-day and moment to moment. Drop the word want from your vocabulary and replace it with “I am…” affirmations.  Separate yourself from the illusion that defines you as the flights of whimsy we call emotions.

The next article will be on the paradigms around passive/aggressive and how it applies to the collective.  It permeates the Narcissist/Empath and Twin Flame paradigms. Such exciting times.

Love and Blessings

Leslie

How are expectations and boundaries intertwined?  How do our expectations cloud our perceptions of reality, and how do our boundaries relate to this process?  Donald Neale Walsch said, and I’m paraphrasing here, “The difference between our expectations and the reality of a situation is directly proportional to the amount of pain we experience.” We create all our suffering.  What does this mean?  It means that when our expectations are higher than what is transpiring, instead of evaluating our expectations we instead suffer with a sense of lack or loss.

We grieve the death of an idea.  Very rarely do we grieve losing a partnership to breakup.  We suffer the loss of an idea, of the potential in the individual or dynamic.  We grieve that another didn’t reach our idea of their potential and meet our expectations.  As Empaths we don’t see people,  we see energy.  We hold visions of others, not as they are, but, as the potential we see in them.  Empaths then resonant with the higher vision to hold space for the growth in oneself and another to that perceived potential.  This is a beautiful process, when this process is understood!  It can manifest as a living hell for those unaware.

The unaware Empath becomes “attached” to the process and then to another soul’s navigation of their own path.  The Empath begins to define their value through the reflection in the dynamic.  And through this entanglement expectations are formed.  Expectations are internal, individual, and unique ideas held within each Soul’s construct of reality.  No two souls here evolve exactly the same way.  Everyone has a different understanding of reality.  Each individual assigns the importance and meaning to each word, thought, and circumstance from an internal construct.

When I look at a color and say, “That’s red.” How do you know that you perceive the same color that I do?  There are many forms of color-blindness in our gene maps.  We have agreed as a global consciousness to assign a name to a vibration in nature.  We do not know what each individual perceives when viewing a color.  My perception of red may appear blue to you.  Yet, by societal and culture “norms” we have learned a vibration and attached a name without any idea of how it is perceived individually.  An example is to pick neutral lighting,  a bit after sunset is good. Find a traffic light.  Close one eye and see how you perceive the green or red light, then close the other.  Is the color (hue) different?  I see two different shades of Green and Red.

Each Soul has a different construct or understanding of the word love. A Soul raised in a healthy nurturing environment has one concept of what love is while a soul raised with abuse will have a totally different idea about what love is.  Those raised in co-dependent families naturally tend towards that model.  These three individuals, with their associated wounds, will view and approach love from very differently perceived realities.  Some Soul see loving relationships as possession.  Some call control love.  Some believe domination is love. This is why communication is so important when discerning boundaries.  A man who prefers a polyamourous lifestyle is not going to fit well into a monogamous arrangement.

When we enter a dynamic with the thought “I can change that in him or her,”  Already we are projecting our expectations onto another.  We have based our happiness and well-being on another’s choices and actions.  We have made a decision to put our experience into another’s hands.  This has proven to be an unproductive approach to personal growth.   We are better served as individual shards and a collective to follow our bliss.  To find our center and reflect a new paradigm.  Suffering is a construct of demands placed on whole beings and the inference that we are not whole.  That we “need” or “lack” in who and what we are.  We are not meatsuits attempting to embrace a higher reality.  We are whole and amazing beings learning to navigate a meatsuit!  If we hold that knowing, our perception of reality reflects our higher vision.

The bottom line is that no one else knows your expectations.  Unless two Souls have taken the time to discuss, review and verify their expectations of a relationship, there are no boundaries in the relationship.  And even with committed communication, problems arise.  Words have different meanings to different Souls.  When things are not dealt with or discussed thoroughly,  internally catalyzed expectations arise. In the unspoken spaces, the Empath fills in the blanks.  Not with reality, but with the highest vision of each persons potential.  (A side note here), The Empath sees the potential in all things.  The rest of the population is frequently unaware of their potential, and is just as frequently unwilling to grow.

In an ideal world, there would be no expectation.  Each soul would interact, parallel, converge, and diverge without attachment to an outcome.  A fully actualized being would have no need for another in their reality to feel whole. Each would be sovereign.  This is the 5D model of relationships.  We seek out relationships that nurture and grow us. We are whole bits of Source, every drop of the ocean contains all of the ocean.  If you break a mirror each shard will reflect the entire image.  We are complete in every way.

We have been conditioned and programmed by culture, society, and religion to believe we are not whole.  And we are programmed to believe that we cannot be happy or complete without a counterpart.  Some even dare to define and limit what types of unions that are deemed “acceptable”.  Society, culture and religion tell us what we are to “need” to be productive humans in a 3D world.  The higher wisdom is withheld.  And the best way to keep the masses embroiled in 3D is to set up expectations outside the organic flow and constructs of nature.

As stated in TES Article III, there are examples in nature of monogamy.  And the human animal is not one of these examples.  When we embody the concept that we are not enough  we spend lifetimes pursuing wholeness in another.  The the Empath is kept seeking in the lower energies while there is little time or resources left for the real and bigger questions.

How do we shift expectations to boundaries?  When I am asked, “How do I help raise the frequency and the global consciousness on Gaia?”  I always respond with Chaipod’s saying, “It’s an inside job.”  We, as Empaths, learn to release expectation; which is an energetic projection of our reality onto another, and replace these expectations with boundaries; which are an internal and introspective process that holds space for both to grow!  We take back the power and control we have given others.  We take back these parts of ourselves by setting boundaries.  Not projecting our reality onto another.  To project is to base ones well-being on another’s actions. As humans we are flawed and messy.  To embody is to express our wholeness and creating space to flow in our dynamics with a better understanding of what we are and how we reflect here in 3D, 4D, and 5D.

We focus instead on what we feel is essential from Heart and not from a globally sleeping consciousness.  The Empath learns the difference between re-acting in Ego and responding with presence. Reacting is a process that requires no thought or foresight. Responding is a process of awareness and compassion. We don’t engage in the unproductive behaviors of others.  We see the wounds that are being expressed and Instead we explore ourselves and our reactions in these dynamics.  The Empath learns to discern what resonates with our reality,  and in doing so we set boundaries of what is acceptable within our experience. Then if someone pushes those boundaries, we are firm in our resolve.Boundaries can always be reevaluated.  Remember we live in constant flux. We never settle for the lower expressions in our reality.  In honoring ourselves in the highest, we honor all other Soul in our experience, regardless of the outcome.

When I say “Why did he/she do that?”  I know, immediately, I am projecting.  Everyone is experiencing their own version of reality.  Truly deep bonds and understanding are rare.  When we find these we fin our tribe.  Most are not tribe and hold many paradigms of suffering and wounds in their realities.  Instead of projecting into another’s reality full of wounds and contradictions, I become introspective and ask instead, “Ok, why do I care?”  “How does this impact my well-being?” And most importantly, “What is my most empathic and highest expression.”  “What would be the best way to respond for my highest good and the highest good for all in this dynamic?”

I do not say do the highest, I say be the highest.  Doing is a 3D idea. Being is multidimensional.  It’s not about doing for results, it’s about being, and creating space and allowing.  When the win/loss mentality of Ego is set aside, everything looks different.  The adversarial reality so many cling to dies, and the unfolding awareness that we are all in this together becomes crystal clear.

We talked about embodying a concept in TES Article II .  When something empowers you and resonates with you, ask Source to help you embody the concept.  This helps to seat your intentions deeply into the body.  Remember we are multidimensional beings integrating this knowing into a physical form.  It is a very powerful process.  It is beyond rote understanding, correlation and application.  It is a request to embody and live an intention.  A very sacred and deep devotion to changing our reality here and shifting the collective.

I’d like to introduce another concept here.  The concept of a “Soulprint.”  The Soulprint is similar to a “Carbon footprint.”  We all leave an impression on the collective here.  Every thought is recorded in the ether for all time.  And the majority of impressions here are riddled with ego paradigms, suffering and fear.  This is why we live in an ego-driven, fear-based 3D world now.  This is what the collective is reflecting into our reality.  A Shaman in India once told me,  “All the global wars are just reflections of our internal battles spilling into our 3D manifestation.”  Be awake and aware of the Soulprint you are creating here.  It reflects forever.  The Akashic Records contain packets for each of us containing wisdom and healing.  Raise your Soulprint, which is vibration and your energetics, and these records are released to you and benefit the whole.  I access these records for the Empaths ready for the new paradigm and unfolding.

Here’s an exercise.  Spend one day reflecting on your expectations and how they can be better served through consistent and firm boundaries.  See how many times you catch yourself projecting your reality onto others. “Why do I?” instead of “Why do they.” Turn the process around and reflect within.  Explore what beliefs you are holding.  Discern what is best and highest for you in that moment.  Look deeply at what old patterning you are living.  Are these patterns productive?  Or are these beliefs and patterns what you have been told or taught without real introspection on how they govern and control your perceptions. Instead, follow your heart.  Become aware of the ego and the old patterns that you have played out over and over again without reaching a desired outcome (a projected expectation). See how realistic these expectations we force on others really are.

The next article will be on a deeper understanding of the expressions here as they relate to the passive and aggressive; the Empath and narcissist and the Twinflame models currently reflecting in our reality.

Much Love and Peace,

Leslie

 

 

 

The ego develops in the cognitive years of childhood as a tool to actualize Spirit.  It then becomes distorted and polarized based on the cultural and societal demands placed upon it.  I think of the ego and my inner child as joined.  This is where I find most of the destructive patterns in my reality.  The veils, density, and programming in this matrix indoctrinate the ego into duality instead of unity.  Duality, an expression of Ego, implies we are not one. Duality, in its truest forms, with awakened application of the third dimensional tools, is a gift from Source.  At one time, this was a magnificent playground of harmony and expression.

Let’s look at the Twin Flame paradigm. I have read hundreds of articles and thoughts on the Twin Flame paradigm as it presently permeates this reality.  Any relationship that does not endure through time is or can be a flame experience.  It is up to each of us how we perceive and facilitate our knowing and growth in these dynamics.  The more tumultuous the dynamic, the more opportunity Soul is presented with to grow.  There are examples of twin flames together in this reality. The percentage, however, is minuscule compared to the population.  The latest statistics indicate that less than one percent of the current population can manifest an enduring “Twin Flame” relationship.  It does not mean it’s not possible, this means we are not there yet as a global consciousness.  And I’ll add twin flames are not necessary to awake and to grow.

A twin flame has a contract with you.  Flames often have many lifetimes and pasts with your projection in the 3D or are Soul Tribe coming into aid.  These shards make an agreement to “Spark” one another in their group.  Every true twin flame experience I am personally aware of has ended.  A flame appears, rocks your world, and then leaves.  I have seen this time and time again.  Through flame “Runners” and in flame suicide.  Most contracts between twin flames are not for a lifetime.  This model produces suffering.

Having said that, I believe twin flame relationships that endure become soul mate relationships.  This is not a given.  It is a function of timing.  As in any relationship, timing is everything.  Two souls come together with like goals and like ego wounds.  Goals and Soul change constantly in the flux of this matrix.  For two Souls to find one another and remain on parallel paths is very difficult.  Instead we bog down in our wounds and miss the messages.  And one of the twins runs.

Eartha Kitt said it wonderfully, in an interview on love.  She was asked if being in love was in essence falling in love with her own reflection in another.  And she said, “Yes.”  Isn’t this true? We love how we reflect in the ones we love.  But, when a refection, the mirror, is distorted and riddled with wounds there can be no accurate reflection.  See?  This opens many doors to self-awareness within the “Reflection.”  When we see the dynamic for what it is; a catalyst for self discovery through our reflection in another that is also part of our whole.  We then we can begin to understand our wounds.  With this awareness we can heal.

There is no need for suffering, when we understand the real purpose behind our time here.  In nature, hawks, beavers and barn owls are monogamous.  These animals mate for life.  That is not how the human has evolved.  It is borne out in the statistics of the day.  High divorce rates.  Many “Millennials” are choosing not to marry.  The masculine physical is wired to spread his seed.  The feminine physical is wired to discern a good mate, because she is the one expected to raise children.  All of these expectations come from religion and the ensuing societal and cultural demands.  We’ve make ourselves unwell trying to fit our expanded knowing into these small boxes.  Step out of societal and cultural limitations and listen to your soul.  Soul cares little for the dramas here.  We are awake, aware beings.  The old paradigms no longer fit.

The new soul coming in is less veiled in their understanding of the 5D model of connection.  Marriage was originally a contract to protect property.  It was not about love. Religion then attached a spiritual meaning to union.  Then all were expected to be monogamous. Humans at best are serial monogamists, having one bonding relationship after another.  Some endure for a decade or so but most dissolve when wounds and ego cannot be healed.  All the expectation around how relationships “Should be,” has been mandated in religion, society and culture.  And most Soul is still entrenched in this paradigm.

The Twin Flame is an old friend.  It is not the physical. It is an energetic bond much larger than 3D would illustrate.  This is why the energetics are so overwhelming. Most often the connection is deep, stirring and awakening sexually.  We are touching parts of ourselves in the whole.  Pardon the pun.  We feel the Oneness for an instant.  It is the highest in both of you, working together to break open the heart and the connection to the whole.  Often twin flames come in and shake up everything we think we know.  The highest in all of us is not concerned with petty 3D constructs of manipulation and imposing our will on another, but in the development of our Soul.  It is about breaking the veils and programming we are all subjected to.

My personal experience with twin flames has been difficult and sad. In some instances it has even been devastating.  Until I began to understand the pitfalls of the paradigm.  The last was a two year whirlwind in which I was constantly having to set boundaries for my less awake partner.  But this difference in development didn’t stop me from exploring every fear and expectation I held around relationships.  He was perfect in his wounds to show me where I needed to grow.  He presented issues around cultural norms and gave me an opportunity to really look at my ideas and fears involving relationships.  The fears of rejection and abandonment were big for me.  I let them go.  I let it all go.

I must add here that one’s awakening is not contingent on a partner.  I had my first activation of the Kundalini five years ago in Peru.  There wasn’t a flame for many miles.  It happened after a ceremony involving “The Grandfather,” San Pedro.  My second arose during sex with my partner in 2014.  It was interesting, but by no means was he responsible for my expression of these energies.  Only I was.  He just happened to be there.  And the third, and most intense, happened while I was alone at home, after meditating in July of 2015.  Let go of the idea that someone else is necessary for you to grow and raise your vibration.  We, alone, are responsible for what we create here and our experience as part of the whole.

Is it possible that we are everything we need to be our highest?  Yes!  Is it possible that this whole paradigm is rampant with suffering?  Yes!  Is there a deeper understanding of these dynamics?  Yes!  Is suffering an ego construct? Yes!  It is in our attempts to fit our round-peg-selves into what square pegged society says we are.  Is this reality map warped?  Yes. Then how do we find our way back to a balanced and realistic understanding of the dynamics embedded in these situations?

We enter this life and leave this life alone.  We take our first breath and our last breath alone.  We agree to this journey to express for self enlightenment and for the whole.  We are not guaranteed company along the way.  Relationships and family are a choice and many contracts are made and broken along the way.  Some are from old patterning and can be released because we have already outgrown the lessons inferred.  No one is bound to a mate or existence that doesn’t serve their highest.  There is no one out there that is going to awaken you. As I say “I can light the pilot, but I cannot fuel the furnace for you.”  We are afforded, based on timeline and circumstance, billions of reflections. Each of these is an opportunity to spark this broader awareness.  But when confined to the 3D model of ego-thinking we forget it is our reflection.

Remember that you are a whole and sovereign being; complete and perfect. Shards of Soul, reflections of you, come and go.  We, as projected individuals in this matrix are responsible for our own growth.  To wait around for someone else to awaken and guide us is silly and unproductive.  We are each co-creators in a vast matrix of 3D.

The 5D model of relationships is a new paradigm.  It is a model that promotes growth in union for both partners.  There is no sacrifice in this dynamic.  No suffering.  Just awareness of the journey.  Nothing is personal.  There is an understanding that all soul is wounded.  And a conscious decision to grow with another and, through awareness, heal ourselves and the collective.  And when a soul makes a mistake, it is just that a mis-take.  Like filming a movie, “That didn’t work.”  And we decide to try again.

So many have embraced the 3D model of relationships.  “I am not valued in society unless I have a mate.”  “I cannot live a productive and whole life without what society tells me I need to be happy.”  The American dream is a house, two car garage, 2.5 kids, blah blah.”  In order to have value in this society it takes another to make me whole!”  I call Bullshit! And with the ego developing during the early years, we are stuck with this unrealistic model.  I ask you to reevaluate the models and energetic patterns you were programmed with.  And to see and live your wholeness without believing that it takes another for you to be whole and accepted.

I am continuously approached by those in twin flame dynamics.  Many who base their sense of self on whether they have a mate.  I say, “this paradigm is dying.”  It is time to self-actualize and take responsibility for our own growth in awareness and wholeness.  This is possible with or without a partner.  Many young women I have worked with have had kundalini awakenings with a partner.  And they assume it was their partner!  I have had three kundalini awakenings.  Not one of them was contingent on having a partner.  This is an inside job.  People come and go.  The only one I walk this entire lifetime with is me!  And my relationship to myself is paramount.  It defines my relationship with all other Soul.  If I do not honor myself, it is impossible for me to truly honor another.  The best advice for those seeking a partner, is do your work and become the best partner yourself.

It’s all about attraction.  We attract those of the same or similar energetics and wounds.  This is Source’s way of helping us see ourselves.  If you are not attracting quality partners, then there is inner work to be done.  It is time to become the quality partner you seek.  This this sets an energetic that attracts only the best.  In the interim, we heal ourselves.  Look at what you attract, the wounds and ego dramas.  These are issues to be addressed from within.

We attract broken people, because we are broken.  We continue to project our baggage onto others. We ask, “Why did he do that?” Instead of fixing, within ourselves, what attracted the wounded soul.  Instead ask yourself, “Why do I care?”  “Why am I in this dynamic?”  “Why do I tolerate being treated this way?” Often the answer is not pretty and the lessons are about boundaries. I will be writing an article to follow on boundaries for the empath.  We lack self-esteem or we would rather have someone than feel alone.  We find ourselves “Settling” for what’s available.  This is not a foundation for a growing, lasting relationship to self or to another and rarely produces a dynamic for growth and self-awareness.

As stated above, the basic tools shared in “The Energetics of Suffering II” also apply here.  When I was seeking a mate I would watch what I attracted.  This was the best indication of my own healing and growth.  For many years I attracted very broken partners.  I realized that to improve my reflection, I must improve the image I was reflecting and heal myself first.

I have outgrown the concept of needing a partner.  This is freedom.  Freedom from what a broken and very ill society says I need.  Freedom to express myself at my highest in all moments.  No longer is it necessary to meet other people’s expectations.  And best of all, I have dropped all expectations of others.  There are no “Shoulds” left in my life.  A should is a judgement, and frankly I’m not interested in judging anything or anyone any longer.

This is how we bust the paradigm of suffering.  By no longer choosing to play the game by the old rules. By following our deepest most cherished inner knowing.  By being the whole amazing beings that we are.  It is an unfolding as we become aware of the deep wounds we have harbored and reinforced for lifetimes.  We find new and novel ways to navigate this reality and the suffering paradigm.  When actualized in Source, nothing is personal except how we choose to respond, not react, in any given dynamic. (The Energetics of Suffering II).  And with this freedom, we take charge of our lives and become aware that every instance is a choice.  Every situation an opportunity to express ourselves in the highest.

More to come on the Empath/Narcsissist model in the next article and the exploration of boundaries.

Much Love and Peace Beautiful Souls,

Leslie

 

 

 

IT’S ALL THE SAME THING!

We have touched on the basics. And I will elaborate on the premises in this article and add some new dimensions to how we perceive our reality and the pitfalls of our filters and wounds.

We have touched on the basics, and now I will elaborate on the premises in this article and add some new dimensions to how we perceive our reality and the pitfalls of our filters and wounds.

First let’s take “We are one,” and “We are all energy.”  These statements are the same.  We all come from one Source and one energy source.  This energy is all that there is. It is Source seed and will always be, ad infinitum.  What we do to one another we are, in effect, doing to ourselves. So how do we work with these knowings? By striving to be the best version of ourselves in every moment.

Time does not exist.  It is a construct of this matrix.  There is only this moment.  The past is spent and the future is without form.  So, how do we navigate the flood of information and insights we receive continuously?  This is about the present moment.  I am not saying anything new here, just a reminder.  As Lisa Unger says, “The past is history.  The future is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it’s called the ‘Present’.”  Our first exercise is to find out how “In the moment” we are.  Most of us live in the past, by reflecting or live in the future, by projecting. As we unfold we can begin to grasp our deeper thoughts and see what patterns we are running unconsciously.

How do we find our moment?  We find our moment by becoming introspective; by knowing that this is a construct we temporarily inhabit.  It is a school for expression.  Our job is to be conscious of our expression in every moment.  And there are over seven billion shards of consciousness working with us every instant.  This is deep work.  Empaths naturally pick up energy of the oneness or the collective consciousness when in other soul’s fields.  We can tap into the group, community, global, and often universal consciousness without effort.  We often wonder why we feel what we feel.  “I was fine a moment ago? What happened?”  We are processing emotions for the group.  This is something the empath is wired to do, and initially often does very unconsciously.

It is time to bring these wounds into our awareness.  There are basically two ways to handle any circumstance.  We either react or we act.  And each tells us a lot about how deeply we have explored ourselves in relationship to the whole.  How often do you think back on a dynamic and muse, “Why did I do that?” The answer is usually that a button was pushed and old or new wounds surfaced.  We do not control when our buttons are pushed.  When we are reacting to a situation, we are in our past wounds or projecting into a future that does not yet exist.  We are projecting them into our current reality.

An example; I have a friend, Meg. Her mother made her wear her hair short all of her childhood.  Meg hated it.  As soon as she turned eighteen, she began to grow her hair and decided never to wear it short again.  This is a wound.  It doesn’t sound like a deep wound, but a wound none the less.  She then had a daughter, Patricia. Meg’s mother, suggested to Patricia, now 14, that she might like her hair short.  Patricia loved the idea.  Meg, on the other hand, was very distressed at this development and reacted from her own wounds and insisted that her daughter not cut her hair.  This illustration shows how one’s wounds are pushed upon the moment.  Patricia had no baggage around the length of her hair yet Meg was attached to her own story and drama and projecting this drama onto a new and entirely different situation. To “react” is to pull up old hurts and express in the old wounded ways; i.e, When we are carrying an old tape of distant trauma into the present moment.  When we react, we are not in the moment.  We are reflecting on past wounds and sometimes projecting our wounds onto others with no such baggage.  This work begins and ends with knowing and healing the self.

Acting, on the other hand, is creation.  To react is to play out the same old behaviors in response to new stimuli that feel like or resonant with old wounds.  To act is a conscious choice to respond to the present situation in the present moment.  Not pulling up old wounds or projecting “what ifs” into the future.  “I’ve seen this before so ill just react now.”  This is a snap judgement and takes no real effort.

When we break down the old patterns that drive our egos, we begin to see every situation with new eyes.  This allows us to break the pattern of reacting in unmindful ways and begin to act differently in similar dynamics.  It allows us to step back from the big screen, like we talked about in part I, and see that we have baggage and that we can now choose how to respond.  We can address and heal our wounds.

When we are in our moment, we always present as our best version.  And the wisdom that is afforded with clear thinking changes in every moment.  As Don Miguel Ruiz so eloquently said in The Four Agreements,  “Always do your best.”  At times we are ill or fatigued. Our best on those days is not the same as our best on a day we feel energized and enlivened.  This growth will not happen overnight.  This is an unfolding.  There will be progress and there will be missteps.  As a dear friend often reminds me, “Be kind to you!”  When we have mastered true self knowing and self-care, nothing presenting in our moment is life-threatening or dire.  We have available to us the tools and wisdom of the universe.  We now know that we are energy and that the energy has only one source.  Therefore each and every soul is energy in motion and expression.

Lets carry this forward and discuss duality and change.  As with energy and oneness, duality and change are the same thing. Duality lays the groundwork for an amazingly shifting and dynamic set of possibilities and realities.  And I use the plural here because it is one set of circumstances with 7 plus billion interpretations.  And these interpretations are based strictly on what that individual is focusing on.  It’s all one thing being viewed from billions of individual shards of consciousness.  If we did not have change, which the polarity of this matrix ensures, we could not discern anything.  All would be the same, always.  If there is no hot water, how would one know when it becomes cold.   With duality and change we live in a dynamic illusion that affords us everything we need to heal ourselves and in doing so heal the collective.  Many are being called now to awaken and start their work so that they may help guide others to the new paradigm. Wake up Sister’s and Brother’s.  The time is now!

The first four premises are actual only two. We are one energy and we interact in a dualistic world that is designed to be in constant flux.  This is the reality we have chosen as a collective.

Another tool for introspection is when we project, we are forcing our reality onto another. We are expecting another to act and react like we think they should.  Should is an individual concept.  Do you See?  There is no should in reality.  Reality just is.  How often have you said “Why did he/she do that?” It really doesn’t matter why they acted or reacted as they did.  What really matters is, “Why do I Care?”  “What wound was triggered and how do I heal it?” and “How will I choose to respond.”  “How can I best act consciously to help transmute this situation and this energy?”  This is how we heal ourselves and heal others in our process of awakening.

Whenever we are triggered introspection is the best option. Not blame or judgement. Just take a look at what ego-programming you have embraced subconsciously.  Evaluate your judgments (Judgement being moments of not bothering to think just reacting instead) built into your paradigm.  And remember there are seven billion plus individual paradigms that reflect into our consciousness.  And it’s all ONE.

These tools, evaluating whether you are in your moment and bringing it back to your own map of reality, are simple to use.  They can be used in any situation.  I have a saying, “Life is simple, it’s just not always easy.”  We have very basic energetic patterns running through this reality matrix.  To live this knowing with integrity is a moment to moment journey.  In each moment we are afforded all that we need to awaken.  We must learn to navigate a new paradigm.  The ego is not the enemy.  The ego is a 3-D tool from Source! The ego has just been trained in unproductive ways.  Introspection and being present are the keys to unlocking the Ego’s amazing purpose here. Try these tools.

My next article will speak to the “Twin Flame” paradigm vs. the idea of Soul Mates.  I will explain the energetic patterns and reasons for this construct in our present reality.  I will also talk about the pitfalls of relationship expectations and what they create in these dynamics and why.  It is a tool for the individual reflection of our current perceptions of ourselves.  Then I will delve into the mindset of victimhood and how these paradigms are outdated and are no longer needed to advance energetically in this matrix.  Suffering is a construct.

 

Much Love and Light Dear Souls,

Leslie

 

 

WE ARE ONE!

IF GROWTH IS NOT RESISTED, IT DOES NOT HURT!

Before we begin I would like to state that all the information contained here is my perception. It is the product of a lifetime of seeking and of enumerable changes and opportunities along with five years of intense growth, reading and research.  If it doesn’t resonant, no worries. However, if you are truly ready to shed the suffering paradigm, please do your best to suspend your disbelief and look at these models as energetic patterns. If you are on a timeline, it has a set of energetic themes coupled to the global and even galactic consciousness.  The patterns can change as timelines do. But again, if talks of past lives, timelines, agendas and connections to source are too far fetched there are more “down to earth” three dimensional insights that might help you. I will present in this series of articles, perspectives I have found that support the overall global knowing that will help to dissolve these antiquated concepts.

I follow no religion or philosophy other than my internal structure.  So I don’t hold one vocabulary. From my knowing, all the stories of the Ascended Master’s visits to Gaia were to share the same message. The resulting morphing and changing by the human filters of the times, such as cultures, societal constraints, and agendas, colored and distorted the message.

As an intro to this topic I believe that awakening for the majority of beings is an unfolding.  I will share my insights on this incredible journey, with simple and concise ideas. There are some core concepts that I will share that helped me break my patterns and capture my thoughts for deep insights.  I think of it as taking the whole and making it into a sound bite. A simple reminder of who we are as we navigate these challenging times. An example, one of my favorites being from social media is, Martha Beck’s, “You spot it you got it!” This is a deep spiritual and psychological concept in a nutshell.  It speaks to recognizing our own perceived flaws in others.  And if you can define it in another, it is a quality you also possess.  But the simple affirmation can trigger the entire concept. We will discuss oneness, energy, change, and duality to start.  These premises are important in building the foundation for releasing the suffering paradigm.   There are simple tools to change our perceptions. We can then begin to embody the knowing that we are not these “meatsuits” we lug around.  We are eternal beings with a very small amount of consciousness dropped into a very dense physical reality and a vessel riddled with paradigms and programs. Add to that a very limited life span, hurtling through space on a giant hunk of rock.  Reality! Now if that doesn’t make you think that we make mountains out of molehills, what will?

First Premise: We are one.  We all come from the same Source which permeates our reality.  Even language reflects the higher path. Donald Neale Walsch, in “Conversations with God”, “Atonement  broken down is at-ONE-ment. The only difference between reactive and creative is where one chooses to place the C.”  So based on this knowing, we are all one and we are having an awakening to our own multidimensionality.  With awareness and understanding of the energetics of our beings, it is easier to let go of these unproductive patterns. When you are in the trenches it is very hard to see. Here is an example. When someone stands too close to a wide-screen television they are unable to see the bigger picture, they perceive only pixels.  When one can step back from the television space is created for broader vision. We are living our lives in the trenches looking at the pixels instead of the bigger picture. But, we are beginning to make space for ourselves and each other to embody the higher functions and raise our physical form to broader levels of perception.

Second Premise: We are all energy.  Everything is energy. Energy afforded to us to grow in this environment. We are “Frozen Light,” the co-creators of our reality. We are Universal Source energy slowed down to experience the illusion of separateness.  All things in this reality have patterns and frequency, scale and scope. I will elaborate on this later as it relates to the Twin Flame, narcissist/empath models. These models can bring enlightenment on how these patterns have been used to encourage the victim mentality within the dynamics in this matrix.

Third Premise: The only real constant in this matrix is change.  Change is the catalyst, and I have found that change is a force of nature in and of itself. It is essential to generate the productive growth environment this planet provides.  Change is like the Borg. “Resistance is futile!”  Now I am not going to paint a “peaches and cream” picture here. Our matrix is polar.  All aspects of it are polar.  Polarity and change are intricately entangled. If there are good entities and/or agendas here the opposite also exists in our consciousness.  But, here is where I see us missing the energetic boat. It’s all one. As the saying goes, “Right wing, left wing, same bird.”  The differences perceived are just that, perceptions.  And we forget no bird can fly with only one wing.  Heads and tails are two sides of the same coin.  I could go on and on. There are really very few signature energetic patterns running in this consciousness at this time.  The diversity of “stories” here stem from our gifts of observation and individual expression.

Fourth Premise:  Duality is not our enemy.  Duality is a gift. When souls are aligned and at peace; when the thoughts, emotions and actions are in accord. This reality is bliss.  A playground designed to teach a wide range of expression. We are in school folks.  It is a demanding and convoluted maze to navigate.  Regardless of any belief system, it is what we make of it.  The ego is a tool for the third dimension.  It is a construct of the polarized matrix we inhabit. This is an inside job!  The third dimensional world is the reflection of our global consciousness. The wars we fight are the reflection of our inner battles spilling into the global grid. To begin to see basic understandings of the world and realities we live in here, from an energetic level.

With some core concepts we can begin to discern and make wise, productive choices.  When a new concept presents itself, and it resonates deeply,  I ask my highest to help me “embody” it.  By doing so, I am embracing a new reality and asking not to understand, or just apply it.  I am asking to become the embodiment of this concept.  To live my present with a new awareness.  I can then take responsibility and again guide my life with connections to my highest wisdom.  When one begins to understand the energetics we inhabit, we can utilize tools of empowerment and the victim mentality just falls away.

More to come.  I will go deeper on each of these subjects in the next installment.

Much Love and Many Blessings,

Leslie